On Gardens, Nature and Healing

“At one point I was visited by the temptation to use the theme of nymphéas [water lilies] for a decoration. Carried the length of the walls, enveloping the entire interior with its unity, it would attain the illusion of a whole without end, of a watery surface without horizon and without banks; nerves overstrained by work would be relaxed there, following the restful example of the still waters, and to whomsoever lived there, it would offer an asylum of peaceful meditation at the center of a flowering aquarium.”

– Claude Monet [1]

Claude Monet, Matin, entre 1914 et 1926, trois “panneaux”
à l’huile accolés sur toile marouflée sur le mur, H. 200 ; L. 1275 cm, 17180, 
© RMN-Grand Palais (Musée de l’Orangerie)/ Hervé Lewandowski

In his Water Lilies, Monet sought consolation from the loss of his second wife, Alice, and his eldest son, Jean.

Days and hours with his pond, surrendering to the ever changes of life.

“Do you really think that the excitement and ecstasy with which I express and fulfill my passion for nature simply leads to a fairyland?… People who hold forth on my painting conclude that I have arrived at the ultimate degree of abstraction and imagination that relates to reality. I should much prefer to have them acknowledge what is given, the total self-surrender. I applied paint to these canvases the same way that monks of old illuminated their books of hours; these owe everything to the collaboration of solitude and passion, to an earnest, exclusive attention bordering on hypnosis… I set my easel in front of this bit of water that adds a pleasant freshness to my garden; in circumference it is less than 200 meters and its image evokes the idea of infinity for you; you ascertain in it, as in a microcosm, the existence of the elements and the instability of the universe that changes from minute to minute under our eyes. ”

– Claude Monet [1]

Claude Monet, Matin, entre 1914 et 1926, trois “panneaux”
à l’huile accolés sur toile marouflée sur le mur, H. 200 ; L. 1275 cm, 17180, 
© RMN-Grand Palais (Musée de l’Orangerie)/ Hervé Lewandowski

[1] "Monet: Water Lilies (including 99 illustrations)", by Charles F. Stuckey. Hardcover, Park Lane, 1991.

To hatch a crow

To hatch a crow, a black rainbow
Bent in emptiness
over emptiness
But flying.

Ted Hughes, Crow: From the Life and Songs of the Crow (Faber and Faber, 1970)

As spring emerges, many beings start getting prepared for their new fledglings. Close by, two of these creatures have begun building a nest. Up and down they fly, building slowly, the little home for their new baby crows.

Talking with a friend about crows, she pointed out that they have begun dive-bombing people walking by. Maybe they are confused and think that the passersby’s hair are twigs, which they would like to use for their nest, I suggested. She didn’t sound very convinced with my theory.

Trying to figure out if my guess was accurate, I read a little about the reason crows chase people around during these months. What I found as an explanation for their behavior, was somewhat related to my nest hypothesis, but not exactly.

Crows during breeding season defend their nests from potential predators, protecting the area around their nest. Hence, the diving and chasing of humans is not to find twigs, but to scare people and other animals away from their future crow babies.

In an interview, Wayne Goodey, a Zoologist, specialist in animal behavior, when asked about crows dive-bombing during spring said:

“The crows are not targeting you, or hate you… all they want to do is give you a reason to move on. If you keep moving once they chase you, you have no problem at all.”

It is funny and makes animal-sense. I share with you some pictures of my two busy friends building their new home:

Nest Building
Crow Nest

On Life’s Mishaps

One of my aunts told me this once:

When my children were kids, your uncle and I used to say, “when X or Y happens, then all will be good”. Today, more than two decades after, when I look back to that moment, I see that those experiences were actually some of the most beautiful moments of my life. I don’t know what we were waiting for. Problems, ups and downs, they will always be there, but what we may forget is to appreciate the other things that we actually have.

Aunt

Today, when I see so many things changing in our day to day life and also, when I listen to several of my elderly friends share how they feel as they see how their body, memory, friends and mind slowly vanish, I try to remember my aunt’s words.

Her words tell me, life will always have problems, loss, mistakes, outcomes different from what you expected, from what you planned, from what you hoped. But, understanding that this is what being alive gifts, would make those situations less painful, more sweet and fruitful.

Much of human suffering comes when expectations are different than what actually is. Given this, if one understood that life includes mishaps, which will happen to everyone*, at least one would avoid the pain that comes from unmet expectations. Not only this, knowing that we are not the only person to whom this happens would give us more hope, understanding, self-care and strength to overcome what may. Life is not about getting a hand of five aces, instead, is about what you keep doing with the cards you keep being handed.

Llegaremos a tiempo (Rosana)

On Change

“Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we don’t even recognize that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book or a person who explained to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger, spiritually than we were before. Whenever we grow, we tend to feel it, as a young seed must feel the weight and inertia of the earth as it seeks to break out of its shell on its way to becoming a plant. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing what is happening. Those long periods when something inside ourselves seems to be waiting, holding its breath, unsure about what the next step should be, eventually become the periods we wait for, for it is in those periods that we realize that we are being prepared for the next phase of our life and that, in all probability, a new level of the personality is about to be revealed.”

Alice Walker, Living by the Word

On Maitri

On Maitri

“In order to be loved, we have to love, which means we have to understand.”
“If you offer your beloved something she does not need, that is not maitri. You have to see her real situation.”
“If you were to say to me, `Thây, I love you so much I would like you to eat some of this durian [which he doesn’t like],’
I would suffer. You love me, you want me to be happy, but you force me to eat durian. That is an example of love without understanding. Your intention is good but you don’t have the correct understanding.”
“Without understanding, your love is not true love. You must look deeply in order to see and understand the needs, aspirations and suffering of the ones you love. Love brings us joy and well-being. It is as natural as the air. We are loved by the air; we need fresh air to be happy and well.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

(Maitri=Love, Friendship and the intention and capacity to offer joy and happiness)

On Right Livelihood

A text by Pema Chödron

“So hard to find such ease and wealth
Whereby to render meaningful this human birth!
If now I fail to turn it to my profit,
How could such a chance be mine again?

Shantideva, The Way of the Bodhisattva, 1.4

    From the Buddhist point of view, human birth is very precious. Shantideva assumes that we understand this preciousness, with its relative ease and wealth. He urges us to contemplate our good situation and not to miss this chance to do something meaningful with our lives.
    This life is, however, a brief and fading window of opportunity. None of us knows what will happen next. As I’ve grown older with my sangha brothers and sisters, I’ve seen many friends die or experience dramatic changes in their health or mental stability. Right now, even though our lives may seem far from perfect, we have excellent circumstances. We have intelligence, the availability of teachers and teachings, and at least some inclination to study and meditate. But some of us will die before the year is up; and in the next five years, some of us will be too ill or in too much pain to concentrate on a Buddhist text, let alone live by it.
    Moreover, many of us will become more distracted by worldly pursuits-for two, ten twenty years or the rest of our lives-and no longer have the leisure to free ourselves from the rigidity of self absorption.
    In the future, outer circumstances such as ware or violence might become so pervasive that we won’t have time for honest self-reflection. This could easily happen. Or, we might fall into the trap of too much comfort. When life feels so pleasurable, so luxurious and cozy, there is not enough pain to turn us away from worldly seductions. Lulled into complacency, we become indifferent to the suffering of our fellow beings.
    The Buddha assures us that our human birth is ideal, with just the right balance of pleasure and pain. The point is not to squander this good fortune.

Pema Chödron, Becoming Bodhisatvas: A Guidebook of compassionate Action

On music

“After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.”

Aldous Huxley from The rest is silence

“I’ve long been obsessed with the hidden power of song. I’m not talking about how music entertains us, or even its higher artistic potentialities, but something bigger and grander. I look to music as a change agent in human life, even as a transformative force in human history.

It perhaps sounds simplistic, but this is the most important core value in my life’s work, the central tenet underpinning in my vocation. Song is a source of enchantment and a catalyst for change. Any philosophy of music—or even a journalistic approach to the subject—that doesn’t respect this remarkable capacity misses much of the point of human music-making.”

Ted Gioia, from The Man Who Put Out Fires with Music

“Songs are the possessions most likely to survive long journeys, remaining the property of the newcomer even when everything else has been taken away.”

Ted Gioia, Music: A subversive history